We all want to feel sexy, and the good news is that we all can be...it's all a matter of attitude and self confidence. More than one person has told me (and this is from men as well as women) recently that the media hype about fat people is a lot of drivel, women can be just as gorgeous if they are well padded as if they are skinny. It really is all about walking into a room, and being YOU.
But there are a few things you can do to enhance that inner poise, and the brilliant Nancy Hayssen has compiled a top ten list of her own feel sexy tips if you're looking for a little boost in that department. And the best thing - none of them involve eating nothing but celery for a week, drinking slimming tea, expensive 'inch-loss wraps' or wearing 'slimming colours' - enjoy the tips I've posted here, and e sure to visit Nancy's site for the rest...
1. Make the Most of Your Shape
Do your clothes fit your body type, and are you feeling confident and sexy in what you are wearing? Keep in mind that sexy clothes can even be conservative, as long as you feel your best and carry yourself with poise!
Accessories such as sexy heels, eye-catching belts, trendy sunglasses or that perfect Little Black Dress can make your night perfect before you even head out the door. Don't be afraid to take bold risks with your style; stand out in a crowd!
2. Be Confident
Are you standing up straight and looking people in the eyes? When you hold yourself with high regard, others cannot help but take notice and treat you with that same respect and interest. For a moment, imagine how you come across to stranger at a party:
Are you friendly and interesting? Do you look angry and unapproachable? Are you hiding in a corner, avoiding any contact at all? While being confident may not come naturally, it is a skill we all can develop. Use mantras such as "You are sexy!" repeated in your mind until you believe them. You'll be amazed at just how quickly you are convinced it is true!
3. Relish in Some R & R
Have you had enough rest at night, and are you planning a vacation or spa day soon? Remember that the time you invest in yourself is time well spent, as you renew your energy and build your confidence to move ahead in life!
Even a simple bubble bath can be a relief after a hectic day, and that much-deserved time alone is priceless. While family and work are certainly important, you can only feel 100% sure of yourself when you are energized.
Save up your pennies if you have to in order to afford a day of relaxation away from all the stressors of your daily life... you will not regret spending the money on yourself!
4. Lighten Up!
Can you lighten the mood in an instant? Do you always have a story to share? One of the personality traits most often admired is confidence in awkward situations. The grace it takes to get a conversation going, the patience that is needed to endure a boring talk and the creativity required to get people to enjoy their surroundings: these are all qualities to be working towards.
When you can bring lighthearted fun into a situation, your confidence becomes key. Before you enter a social situation, keep in mind that your own sexy self esteem may be just the element needed to get everyone else in their own best mood. Don't underestimate your powerful gift!
5. Have a Sexy Mantra
Have you repeated your sexy mantra to yourself daily? Do you look in the mirror and remind yourself of just how sexy you really are? Be your own biggest fan, and others will follow. Know that you are sexy, desirable and interesting, and do not be afraid to remind yourself of that each day.
Say to yourself "I am a sexy woman" over and over again.
You will begin to believe it soon enough! Always remember to carry yourself with an air of sexy confidence and never, ever talk yourself down from that high. Begin today and you will thank yourself tomorrow!
As a large woman myself, I used to always try and hide myself in *too big* clothes, shapeless tops etc. and I now buy from Simply Be and Evans... pay a bit more but the cuts are more flattering and I actually feel fashionable again!
I hated shopping for clothes as most shops just wouldn't have my size, so wasn't much fun. Why even bother?
It doesn't help that my hubby - bless him, loves me how I am no matter what - would think me sexy in a sack even... but I now try harder with clothes for ME. And I feel much sexier!